Skip to main content

Dear, You who want to get married soon :) (Part 1)

 Bismillah

All praises belong to Allah, the One and Only God Who creates, controls, and gives provision to his creatures.

Also peace and blessing be upon our Prophet, Muhammad, the seal of the messengers of God.

Hi, there. You probably don't know me, and neither do I. But, I just want to share my opinion and story. It may be a long post, but it may give u a new perspective, insyaa Allah.

Well, in my early twenties, I had a thought of getting married on my twenty fifth birthday.

You probably have such feeling like mine. On my twenty fourth, qodarullah I got some problems in my life. Thus, I wanted to get married soon to have a "new" story in my life. In other words, I wanted to get away from those problems. (FYI, I hadn't learnt Islam well that time)

Moreover, my parents were not young anymore since I am the last child in my family. So my willing to get married soon was in another level that time cause I wanted my parents to see me getting married and having children before they die.

But yes, this life has Possessor. We have Possessor. Human proposes and God disposes. We cannot force our destiny.

Even if we don't get what we want, life must go on, right? We still have to live, don't we? Cause life is not only about getting married by the way.

And now, I'll be 28 years old in Oct and still single. Am I sad? Am I angry? Not at all! Ah, probably I was! But after learning Islam, I don't think I am.

I am really grateful for Allah. Indeed, He does know the best for me.

Allah has decreed our destiny and of course it is the best for us since we don't know the best while He knows.

If I think about my past years, I don't think that was the right time for me to get married. I was so childlike and not mature enough to be a wife or a mom. I still looked for a happiness, romance, etc in a marriage that time.

All praises belong to Allah. My perspective about marriage was changed.

About two years ago, I started studying my religion, Islam, based on the Quran and sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad peace and blessing be upon him also listening to marriage couple experiences. Honestly, those things not only change my perspective about marriage, but also my general perspective about this life, masyaa Allah.

It is true that we wanna get a happiness in a marriage. But the fact that there will be not only happiness in marriage life is another things to be considered. If we only expect good things, we will get more disappointed when bad things happened.

Marriage is another level of life. How perfect our spouse will be, there'll be still problems we get. Life is a journey. It is a test and there'll always be problems all the way. Even in the reality, no one is perfect. So how will we suppose to have a perfect life in a marriage?

Here, the intention of getting married has the main role as a motivation when you wanna give up on your marriage. Thus, it's important for us to set our intention well before getting married.

What is your intention of getting married then?

(To be continued)

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Jadi Guru?? (Part 2)

 Bismillah.. Mari kita lanjutkan setelah sekian lama dalam diam hehe Jadi, saat sedang dalam kebingungan, tiba- tiba kakakku yang berada di luar kota menghubungiku melalui aplikasi pesan. Dia bertanya padaku, apakah aku bersedia mengajar di SMP khusus putri di dekat tempat tinggalnya karena kebetulan SMP tersebut masih baru dan membutuhkan guru bahasa Inggris. Sejenak, aku merasa seperti mendapat jawaban atas kebingunganku saat ini. Tapi, itu tidak lantas membuatku langsung menerima tawaran dari kakakku karna aku juga belum merasa yakin untuk mengajar. Tidak pernah terbayangkan olehku bagaimana nantinya jika aku mengajar. Dalam hatiku, masih ada keinginan cukup besar untuk tidak menjadi guru. Tapi di sisi lain, ada sedikit keinginan dalam diriku untuk mencoba menyalurkan ilmu yang selama ini aku dapat di bangku perkuliahan. Aku benar- benar bingung kala itu... Hingga akhirnya, aku memutuskan untuk sholat istikharah dan benar- benar pasrah meminta petunjuk kepada Allah. Aku berdoa a...
Post a Comment
Read more

The Worldly Life

Bismillah This may be the shortest post I've ever made until now. About this world, I think most of us have known that this is temporary. There'll be the end of this world. We'll surely leave this worldly life, yet we feel so hard to disengage from this world. Why? Cause our desire toward anything in this world is higher than our desire toward the Hereafter. Perhaps. I don't find the reason yet, tbh. But one sure thing is that, everyone shall taste death. Death, that's not the end of our life. That's the start toward the eternal life. The destination will be only two, Paradise or hellfire. Thus, prepare carefully for we're here in this world to get the nicest eternal life, insyaa Allah. May Allah guide us always ❤
Post a Comment
Read more

Re-Hello

Bismillah.. Alright.. Welcome back me to this unseen world (re: blog) Okee.. Jadi sebenernya ini bukan blog pertama aku. Dulu aku udah pernah bikin, alamatnya pintansblog.blogspot.com . Nah karena aku bikin itu waktu jaman jahiliyah, alias jaman alay gitu, jadi aku pengen ngedit- ngedit isinya gitu biar lebih bermanfaat *ceileh gaya bermanfaat ceunah Tetapi, sayangnya aku lupa password blog aku yang itu. Jadilah aku bikin blog baru lagi.. Sebenernya pengen menghidupkan hobi menulis lagi juga sih, makanya CLBK gitu buat nge-blog.. Dan karena usia semakin menunjukan kedewasaan *halah* jadi ya pengen bikin blog yang lebih bermanfaat gitu eheueheuehue Well, disini aku pengen share tentang cerita kehidupan. Sebenernya simple sih.. Kalian bisa lihat di judul aku gitu kan "I typed your common stories". Jadi intinya itu, aku pengen mengulas tentang hal- hal yang biasa kita temuin. Tapi, karena aku suka ngasih motivasi dan bisa dibilang agak bawel, jadi yaa mungkin disetiap postingan...
Post a Comment
Read more